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JMSZ
05-08-2013, 05:32 PM
I know I'm pretty new on here and don't know any of you, but if you're the praying kind, I was hoping that you might put in a word for my wife and son.

We found out last Thursday that he's a boy and as well as can be determined from ultrasounds and blood screenings, he's healthy.

About 10 minutes later, we found out that my wife was getting put in an ambulance and transported to the hospital and will most likely remain there and in bed until she delivers.

She's 22 weeks and her cervix is dilated with the amniotic sac bulging out and she had an infection starting, which could spread to him and put both of them at risk.

The doctor had to prepare us for the possibility that they couldn't get the infection under control, in which case they would have to induce labor and deliver him. That would be a death sentence for him any time prior to 24 weeks and even after that, the odds aren't in his favor for at least another month.

As of yesterday, the infection has responded well to antibiotics and the doctor who admitted her (a specialist, not her regular OB) checked up on her yesterday and said that he was surprised she was still there, but that that's a good thing.

So, they're both good for now, but with the sac exposed, an infection could still get started again, so we're literally counting the days until 24 weeks - 8 days at this point.

The hospital is 1.5 hours away, so I'm having to work during the week and go down to see her on the weekends. Her mom came down to stay with her for a while and you couldn't ask for better nurses and doctors, so it's easier because I know they're both being well taken care of.

The whole pregnancy has been kind of surreal, I think it's been so long that we've been married and before we knew the sex, it didn't really click.

Thursday afternoon, after taking everything in and getting my wife settled in, it hit me - it's my son in there. Not just a baby or a fetus anymore, but my son.

While she was at the specialist, before he told us the bad news, he switched the ultrasound over to 3D, but I couldn't see a lot there, but luckily he gave us a copy. This weekend, I was looking at it again on my computer and I could see my son's face.

It's just amazing.

Thanks for listening.

Timberstalker
05-08-2013, 05:52 PM
Your family will be in my prayers tonight, I hope it all turns out well.

Kevin Root
05-08-2013, 05:54 PM
I believe in prayer. I'll be praying for you all. I hope the healing continues and your baby and wife will come through this all fine. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers JMSZ.

packmule
05-08-2013, 06:14 PM
Will keep you and your family in our prayers.

Caseyu
05-08-2013, 06:17 PM
Prayers going your way

JEandAsGuide
05-08-2013, 06:39 PM
Prayers sent!!

DryFlyGuy
05-08-2013, 06:53 PM
One more here sending up a good word.

Colorado Cowboy
05-08-2013, 06:58 PM
Prayes up!!

hardstalk
05-08-2013, 08:18 PM
Prayers are with you!

One of those moments where you wish you could swap spots with your wife and take on the pain yourself. One of the reasons she married you is to be her crutch, stay strong and keep her smiling brother. Keep us updated please.

Fink
05-08-2013, 08:45 PM
Oh man, I hope everything goes okay for her and the baby. Prayers to you and yours.

AKaviator
05-08-2013, 08:47 PM
I will absolutely keep you and your family in my prayers. Hardstalk is right, stay strong for them both. Lots of folks on this forum that I'm sure will be joining in on the prayers.

ssliger
05-08-2013, 09:06 PM
You and your family are in our prayers! Miracles happen everyday. Stay strong.

jjenness
05-08-2013, 09:19 PM
Prayers are on their way. ssliger said it right, and miracles do happen every day. Keep the faith!

Bitterroot Bulls
05-08-2013, 09:39 PM
Prayers sent brother.

dustin ray
05-08-2013, 09:52 PM
Prayers Sent!

Shaun
05-08-2013, 10:09 PM
Wow I am sorry to hear that! Prayers sent

Grantbvfd
05-08-2013, 10:15 PM
Can't imagine what you are going through prayers sent.

hoshour
05-08-2013, 10:31 PM
We will be praying for God's guidance for the staff and for your peace.

My wife was an RN in the intensive care nursery for years. You're in good hands.

Umpqua Hunter
05-08-2013, 11:20 PM
Went through something very similar with the birth of my last child. Mom hospitalized for 6 weeks before giving birth with a life threatening pregnancy. Mom was 1.5 hours away at the hospital and I had our five boys at home. God was faithful and a healthy baby girl was born. You are in my thoughts and prayers and may you rest in Him.

Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

Ikeepitcold
05-09-2013, 07:45 AM
I know I'm pretty new on here and don't know any of you, but if you're the praying kind, I was hoping that you might put in a word for my wife and son.

We found out last Thursday that he's a boy and as well as can be determined from ultrasounds and blood screenings, he's healthy.

About 10 minutes later, we found out that my wife was getting put in an ambulance and transported to the hospital and will most likely remain there and in bed until she delivers.

She's 22 weeks and her cervix is dilated with the amniotic sac bulging out and she had an infection starting, which could spread to him and put both of them at risk.

The doctor had to prepare us for the possibility that they couldn't get the infection under control, in which case they would have to induce labor and deliver him. That would be a death sentence for him any time prior to 24 weeks and even after that, the odds aren't in his favor for at least another month.

As of yesterday, the infection has responded well to antibiotics and the doctor who admitted her (a specialist, not her regular OB) checked up on her yesterday and said that he was surprised she was still there, but that that's a good thing.

So, they're both good for now, but with the sac exposed, an infection could still get started again, so we're literally counting the days until 24 weeks - 8 days at this point.

The hospital is 1.5 hours away, so I'm having to work during the week and go down to see her on the weekends. Her mom came down to stay with her for a while and you couldn't ask for better nurses and doctors, so it's easier because I know they're both being well taken care of.

The whole pregnancy has been kind of surreal, I think it's been so long that we've been married and before we knew the sex, it didn't really click.

Thursday afternoon, after taking everything in and getting my wife settled in, it hit me - it's my son in there. Not just a baby or a fetus anymore, but my son.

While she was at the specialist, before he told us the bad news, he switched the ultrasound over to 3D, but I couldn't see a lot there, but luckily he gave us a copy. This weekend, I was looking at it again on my computer and I could see my son's face.

It's just amazing.

Thanks for listening.

Good luck for you, your wife and your new boy! It will all be fine. Keep positive and your prayers will be answered.

mnhunter
05-09-2013, 10:34 AM
Prayers sent from my family to yours.

Grizz
05-09-2013, 10:55 AM
Prayers Sent... Trust in The Lord!

Guy
05-09-2013, 12:01 PM
Wow, that is some serious news. Sorry to hear about the situation with your wife and new baby. I will be praying for you man. I hope is turns out okay.

-G

shootbrownelk
05-09-2013, 02:25 PM
Prayers sent, good luck to you and your family.

sjsmallfield
05-09-2013, 03:18 PM
My family and I will be praying for you. Stay strong man.

JMSZ
05-09-2013, 05:17 PM
Thank you all.

I just got told that her white blood cell counts increased, it can be caused by a number of things some of which are benign but it can also mean the infection is getting worse.

Not being able to do anything about any of this sucks. I just picture his face in my head and think about what it's going to be like holding him and hope that we get there.

Thank you all again.

Timberstalker
05-09-2013, 05:21 PM
I will keep praying for your family. Hang in there my friend.

Ridgerunner
05-09-2013, 05:29 PM
Prayers sent try to hang in there

Eric Bailey
05-09-2013, 06:10 PM
Said a prayer for you. I know you'll get to meet him soon when he is a healthy full-term baby boy. Take care of yourself and your wife.

Murdy
05-09-2013, 06:52 PM
Prayers sent as well

BKC
05-09-2013, 08:01 PM
Children are heaven sent. Prayers sent from Colorado.

JMSZ
05-15-2013, 08:06 PM
My son was born Sunday morning at 1:50AM, at 23 weeks and 2 days, 1 pound 1 ounce.

He was taken directly from the delivery room to the neonatal intensive care unit and is now stable and doing very well for his gestational age. He's by no means out of the woods, he's a long way from it, but he does not have major bleeding and he was negative for an infection and those are the two biggest threats to him at this point.

Thank you all for the prayers and please keep the coming, he and all of the other babies in the neonatal ICU needs all the help they can get.

The doctor that admitted my wife to the hospital here saved my son's life. We live 1.5 hours from the hospital he's in, if the doctor had sent my wife home, she most likely would have delivered up there. He is only alive now because they were able to move him directly into the ICU, had we been at home, he would not have survived.

Thank you all again.

ID_MW
05-15-2013, 09:01 PM
Stay up- and the very best wishes to your family.

hardstalk
05-15-2013, 09:19 PM
Glad to hear the battle is in your favor! Keep us updated

DryFlyGuy
05-15-2013, 10:00 PM
JMSZ,

Thanks for the update. Enjoy every second, take nothing for granted, and keep the faith. We are all here to support you and your family, bud.

Shorthair0
05-15-2013, 11:40 PM
You have been blessed with a loving wife, a son, as well as the grace for a strong faith. God never gives us more than we can handle, although at times the burden is tough. May you have peace in your heart and your son to grow tall and strong to walk the land and follow the path of his father. Amen.

Prayers from California for you and yours. Godbless.

Ridgerunner
05-16-2013, 08:12 AM
Glad to hear he is in good care, praying that he continues to do well and for strength.

Bitterroot Bulls
05-16-2013, 11:29 AM
Prayers doubled, friend.

Kevin Root
05-16-2013, 02:59 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there JMSZ. You're not alone in all of this.

"So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."
Isaiah 41:10

Timberstalker
05-16-2013, 03:10 PM
I hope thing keep going good. Thanks for the update, I've been thinking about your family everyday. The prayers are still going up my freind.

sjsmallfield
05-16-2013, 11:56 PM
The thoughts and prayers of myself and family are with you guys. Continue to stand strong my friend!

hardstalk
05-21-2013, 01:18 PM
Hows everything coming?

JMSZ
05-21-2013, 08:49 PM
My son died at 10:00PM on Sunday at Cedars Sinai hospital.

He was life-flighted there from the Antelope Valley Hospital NICU after the doctor determined that he had a perforated bowel which they could not operate on at Antelope Valley Hospital.

Saturday, as he was coming up on one week, we were finally starting to think that he might be through the worst of it.

Sunday morning when we came in, his heart rate was pegged at one pulse, which wasn't normal and they couldn't get blood pressure or blood oxygen concentration levels from any of his limbs.

The doctor took lateral x-rays and saw the air from the perforation.

The doctor told me then that the prognosis wasn't good and when I look back on it now, I think I knew Sunday morning, before they even did the x-rays, that it was really bad. His body was restricting blood flow to his critical organs and I knew that only happens when you have hypothermia, you're in shock or bleeding heavily. He didn't have hypothermia and nothing happened that would have caused him to go into shock, and with the bowel perforation, that narrowed it down pretty quickly.

When I saw him after they got him to Cedars Sinai, it was obvious that he had been bleeding internally during the ride over and the doctors said that the infection he had from the gut bacteria was making his blood too acidic and they probably couldn't recover him.

God bless them, they still took him to the operating room and tried, but he arrested as soon as they got him there. They spent 30 minutes trying to revive him in the OR before they came to us with the recommendation to remove his ventilator.

I knew that at that point, anything they did to try to revive him would just make him suffer longer and even if they had managed to fully revive him, the lack of oxygen and acid in his blood would have crippled him mentally and probably physically.

Explaining that to my wife wasn't so easy, but she understood it and agreed that it was the right thing for our boy.

We finally got to see him without his ventilator and got spend time with him outside of the incubator for the first time.

My boy is so handsome.

He had a strong will and a strong heart, but his little body just wasn't ready yet.

We're burying him in the cemetery at Kernville, California. His eight days on this earth were full of noise and light and commotion and I wanted him to be some place where he could hear the wind blow and the birds call and see the stars at night and have some peace.

He's near enough that we can visit him regularly and when I go up to hunt, I can stop by and see him on the way up.

I want to thank all of you for the prayers and support. Please hug your kids and tell them how much you love them.

Kevin Root
05-21-2013, 09:34 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and the pain you are surly feeling. You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers. I'll continue to do so. Kernville and up into those mountains and wilderness above is a beautiful place. I hope the coming days ahead will bring peace, comfort and healing to you and your family during this very difficult time.

Drhorsepower
05-21-2013, 09:37 PM
I'm so sorry brother.... Your family is in all of our prayers.......

buckbull
05-21-2013, 10:30 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. A parent should never have to bury their child.

Muleys 24/7
05-21-2013, 10:51 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss

hardstalk
05-21-2013, 11:11 PM
You did everything you could and I'm terribly sorry for your loss. You will continue to be in our prayers. Bless you and your wife for giving it your all!

AKaviator
05-21-2013, 11:17 PM
JMSZ,
My sincere condolences. Your son must have been a tough little guy. I continue to keep you and your wife in my prayers.

dustin ray
05-22-2013, 12:24 AM
Im vary sorry to here of your lose. Having lost a son myself i fell your pain be strong my friend your wife needs you more then ever. And i can tell you there is hope but only time will heal your pain.I to will continue to keep your family i my prayers.

DryFlyGuy
05-22-2013, 01:01 AM
JMSZ,

I don't even know what to say. I've typed multiple paragraphs and then just delete them because I am a total stranger & a nobody to you, but I just want to somehow say something that will help to comfort you and your grieving wife. I can't even swallow the apple that is stuck in my throat thinking about your sweet son. I'm going to hug my kids a little tighter and be a little more available to them because I know you would give anything for that chance right now.

God bless.

Ridgerunner
05-22-2013, 08:46 AM
Sorry to hear that I will continue to pray for your strength in this difficult time.

ssliger
05-22-2013, 08:51 AM
I am very sorry for your loss. I lost a son at birth 13 years ago. If you need anything, let me know. I will continue to keep your family in my prayers.

Bitterroot Bulls
05-22-2013, 09:24 AM
So sorry, my friend.

Your post above was both terribly sad and profoundly wonderful. I am glad you had those last beautiful moments with your son.

My prayers are doubled, again.

sjsmallfield
05-23-2013, 02:04 PM
Very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine. All in my family will be praying for you and your wife. Stay strong my friend!

Timberstalker
05-23-2013, 02:15 PM
I can't imagine going through that, I am very sorry for you and your wife. Stories like this break my heart, I hope for good things to come for you both in the future.

hvfd21walker
05-23-2013, 06:01 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers as much as I can.

Musket Man
05-23-2013, 07:46 PM
God must have something very important up above he needed him for so soon. I like to think everything happens for a reason but many times I cant see it. I dont know what else to say but i'll be thinking of and praying for you guys.

25contender
05-23-2013, 09:32 PM
I dont know you but children are a true gift from God. There is not much solace loosing a child. I hope you will take comfort knowing your son is is Gods hands. My wife and I have sent a prayer for your son and family.....Mark

JMSZ
05-28-2013, 11:02 PM
I just wanted to thank everyone on this forum again for the prayers and words of support.

I can't describe how something as simple as reading your words here helped, most of all in just not feeling so all alone.

It wasn't feeling alone like I wanted attention, but, wanting to do something but not being able to do anything. The world just closes in.

I know that my son is at peace and he is in a beautiful place, both here on earth and in heaven.

Thank you all again.

Fatrascal
06-14-2013, 09:49 PM
Wow, I just saw this post for the first time and read the whole thing. I too am very sorry for your loss and can't imagine what your going through. Kudo's to everyone for the support you have given to JMSZ. We truley belong to an elite group of people and I'm proud to say that I'm glad to know you all even if its only on a website. fatrascal.